To my 2020 brides,
This year has been SO difficult for the wedding world. So many brides & grooms have had to alter/change/move/cancel/whatever what was supposed to be one of the most exciting days of their lives. My heart breaks for you - and I get it! I’m right there with you with my own 2020 wedding. Being a fiancé and a wedding photographer, I’ve had so many opportunities to speak with amazing couples and learn how they’re getting by.
Today, I want to share some of those ideas with you, and let you know that no matter WHAT you choose, I’m here for you, and I’m still your photographer!
Change The Date
If it’s what’s best for you, change your date. Your date may change, your venue may change, your vendors may change, but your future husband/wife will NOT. The people you love most, who will be there to watch you get married on your new date will NOT. No mater what the calendar says, your wedding day will be absolutely beautiful, and absolutely perfect.
If you Change the Date...
A phrase I’ve been seeing all over social media is “Take back the day.” Essentially, Take Back The Day is a way for couples to make their original wedding date special. This year has taken so much away from engagements. What should be one of the happiest, most exciting periods as a couple has become one of the most stressful and upsetting. If you're changing your wedding date, here are a couple of ways you can Take Back YOUR Day:
- Take a mini-vacation. Your original wedding date is going to be a HARD day. You're going to be constantly reminded of what the day should have been. Why not book a cottage, AirBnB, whatever you want when it’s safe to do so and just get away together? Bring an expensive bottle of champaign and celebrate the date. Celebrate each other and all you’ve been through. Celebrate your love!
- Book a Take Back The Day Shoot. I’ve seen some amazing photographers participating in these sessions. They’re elopement-style photography sessions designed for couples who have had to move their wedding dates. Whether you're still legally marrying on your original date, or you just want to dress up and commemorate the day, Take Back The Day sessions are an amazing way to make your original date feel special, despite all the changes.
- Get legally married. If you're set on your wedding date, get married anyways! I've had many of my brides opt to still legally marry together on their original date, and host a more traditional ceremony and reception next year.
You guys. Never forget that your wedding day is about YOU and your PARTNER. If you don’t want to wait to get married and you can do so while still adhering to group gathering restrictions etc. Then do it! I’ve seen SO many absolutely beautiful elopements this year. They’re romantic, intimate, and what a great story to tell!
If you Elope...
- Move your Reception. Just because you choose to keep your original wedding date doesn't mean you don't get to have a celebration. You can always postpone your reception to a later date if celebrating with everyone is something you want to do.
- Host a ceremony online. I know, I know, it sounds a little bit unorthodox. But everything about 2020 has been unorthodox, right? Talk to your wedding planner/tech friends about ways to host a ceremony online. So many platforms are working to make live streams possible for 2020 brides. And this way, your friends and family can still see your special day: safely and from afar.
- Embrace the world. If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. This year has been incredibly difficult. There is NO denying that. But, never forget that we are LIVING in history right now! So, order the fancy masks. Take the photos. Distribute custom hand sanitizer as your gift. Make the best of it. I can't stress enough that your wedding day will be beautiful no matter what your final decision is in terms of how/when to execute.
Most importantly, no matter what you decide, I’m here for you. We will get through this together. I’m still your photographer.